Touching Her Clitoris
How to Stimulate the Clitoris With Your Fingers
So you've read Clitoris 101 and now you want to know exactly what to do with your hands to blow her away?
You've come to the right place. We'll cover a few important basics and then show you some techniques that will keep her coming (no pun intended) back for more.
Have clean, well-groomed hands and fingers
Make sure your hands and fingers are squeaky clean. You certainly don't want to gross her out (or possibly give her a yeast infection – yuck!).
Also make sure your fingernails are clipped very short. You could traumatize her forever if you snag her most sensitive parts with a sharp fingernail.
Get her in the mood
Unlike men, who can be ready and willing at a moments notice, most women need a little bit of warm-up time to really get into the mood. Pay some attention to her erogenous zones - Like starting with a sensual massage and gradually work your way to her hot spots.
You don't have to take off her clothes to start getting her warmed up. Use your hands to rub her clitoris over the top of her underwear (if she’s wearing any). Smoothly run the palm-side of your hand and fingers up and down over the entire area. You'll know that she's really enjoying it if she presses into you or grinds on your hand.
On to the techniques!
The following clitoral stimulation techniques are tried and true. Still, all women are different. Pay close attention to her reaction and feel free to modify the techniques as necessary.
Place your first two (well lubricated) fingers over the top of her clitoris. Then rub her in slow, sexy circles. Vary your speed and pressure (not too hard) until you find something that drives her wild. Many women masturbate exactly like this, so don't be surprised if her body responds and she orgasms quickly. Do this from behind (with her sitting between your legs) or lying side by side.
Sandwich her clitoral hood in between your first two fingers and rub them up and down at a consistent speed. Keep your touch gentle.
- Thumbs up
Insert your first two fingers into her, then turn your thumb up until it rests directly on her clitoris. Now use your fingers while simultaneously drawing circles on her clitoris with your thumb. The combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation will double her pleasure, not to mention lead to a very unique orgasm.
- Tickle and tease
The clitoris is sensitive to even the lightest touch. Gently run a feather over it or touch it lightly to titillate and tease her.
- Crescent moon Insert your thumb into her vagina, curl your palm around onto her clitoris, and rest your fingertips on top of her pubic bone. From here you can stimulate her G spot with your thumb or rub her clitoris with your palm by applying pressure.
- Follow the leader
Ask her to masturbate while your fingers are resting over the top of hers. Then reverse hand positions, and let her guide your own fingers. This is an excellent way of learning how she likes to be touched.
- Palm Press
Lie on your side and place your hand over her vulva, pressing on her pubic mound with the base of your palm. Let your fingers drape over her entire vaginal area. While she presses against your palm, use your index and middle fingers to make come-hither gestures along her vaginal entrance. For a little variety, you can insert two fingers into her vagina. This will simultaneously stimulate her clitoris and G-spot.
Find the speed and pressure she likes and keep it up!
If it isn't broke...
If you find that she particularly enjoys one of the above techniques, keep doing it. Find the speed and pressure she likes and keep it up until she lets you know she wants a change - either through words or body movement. (Hint) She probably won’t.