10 Ways to Make Her Clitoris Hate You

If you follow her on “girls night” and eavesdrop in on the (drunkenly honest) group conversation, you'll probably hear someone mention one of the 10 common bonehead mistakes below.

10. Being (inexcusably) clueless

You don’t have to be a doctor, but you should have a basic understanding of her anatomy down there. That might sound obvious, but very few people actually take the time to learn what the clitoris is and how it works.

9. Touching it too soon

No matter how great you are at stimulating her clitoris, she won’t appreciate it if you make a beeline for it straight away. She needs at least a little bit of warm-up time to get her blood flowing and get in the mood.

Put some effort into it too! Just because you can get a raging hard-on from The Rachael Ray Show doesn’t mean it’s that easy for her. Pay a little attention to her erogenous zones. Start with a sensual massage and gradually work your way to her hot spots.

8. Touching it too late

Her clitoris can be extremely sensitive shortly after she has an orgasm. Don’t end a good time on a bad note. Watch her reactions carefully post-orgasm, and scale back the level of stimulation if necessary.

7. Playing rough

The clitoris has over eight thousand nerve fibers. That’s a lot of sensitivity right there.

If even the lightest touch can shower her with sensations, imagine how painful a rough, careless touch can be. Err on the side of caution. She may have to ask you for more - but that's certainly better than the alternative.

6. Not using enough lubrication

Imagine rubbing your face (or other more sensitive places) with extra-rough sandpaper. That’s how it feels when you touch her un-lubricated clitoris.

Avoid this by gently applying her own natural lubrication, saliva, or a water-based lube to the area before stimulation.

5. Blowing on it

This one might sound obvious, but thanks to the (frequently stupid) advice in men’s magazines we have to officially say it. Don’t blow on her clitoris!

Lubrication is very important for the clitoris. Blowing on it will only dry up the lubrication and cause discomfort. Oh, and it will also make you look like an idiot.

Quick tip: Blowing on the clitoris and breathing warmly on it are two completely different things.

4. Being afraid of vibrators

Don’t worry guys. A vibrator is not a penis replacement. The majority of women prefer to use a vibrator only on the outside of their vagina anyway.

Vibrators can give her quick and powerful orgasms – and can be a lot of fun. Use one during intercourse for that little extra boost.

3. …Or overusing them

Vibrators can be great fun, but overusing them can also lead to a temporary desensitization of the clitoris. This means she might not be able to orgasm unless a vibrator is used. Obviously this isn’t the healthiest way to go. Don't rely on them every time.

2. Stopping for a break

The majority of women have an “orgasm meter” that slowly builds up to the big O. If she really loves what you’re doing, don’t stop or change it up! Otherwise the “meter” may reset itself and you’ll have to start all over.

1. Not communicating

Many people are uncomfortable asking for feedback during sex. But it's important to find out what she likes (and doesn’t). Don’t be afraid to ask her what feels good and why. A sense of humor does wonders here. She’ll feel much more comfortable about opening up to you if you don’t take things too seriously.

Remember, the right attitude and a few sensual words can arouse her clitoris long before you even touch it.